Weekly Mission: Parshat Chayie Sarah
Weekly Mission: Parshat Chayie Sarah
I remember when I was in Israel I was more concerned with the girls I met then the friends I had. If a met someone new, I always asked myself “could this be it? Is she the one?” It began to get to a point where it was emotional torture for me. Rabbi Yehoshua Paltiel from Lev HaTorah already specialized in Love and Marriage, so I figured he would be the right man to talk to. Upon telling him my situation, he quickly responded with an analogy.
Imagine an intersection with stop signs at all four corners. You are going east and your soul mate is going south. The goal is for both of you to meet at exactly the right moment at that stop sign. My Rabbi continued with saying, if one is going to continuously pull over to the side of the road, he loses momentum and speed, he is not focusing on himself or what he needs, but what he thinks he needs. When the moment comes that you reach the stop sign, your soul mate has already been and gone. If one were to focus on his or himself then he would have continued momentum for the exact moment of meeting. He said “Isaiah if you focus on yourself and what you need to be the best you, that you can be, then that is how you will meet your soul mate.
A friend told me she once blurted out to her Rebbe: “Rebbe, I want to marry someone just like you” The Rebbe responded by saying “First you need to be someone like my wife.” Sometimes we spend our whole life in pursuit for meaning, for someone special, and for the ultimate euphoria. We learn through these two stories it only comes from ourselves.
“ .. he married Rebecca, she became his wife, and he loved her…(24:67)”
As stated in other Missions it is important to understand our Patriarchs and Matriarchs and why they are who they are. Not to say the Isaac was not important but simply to stress who Rebecca was. Rebecca was a woman of pure modesty. She overflowed with acts of kindness and was a completely selfless person. Rebecca is a woman who we should all aspire to be like.
We must come to realize that we can spend our whole lives talking about how we want our soul mate to be like but ultimately we need to be that person. If I spend my whole life “pulling over”, then when she is ready for me, I will still be miles away. The people that we will consider as a spouse and life partner will come to us only we have committed to ourselves. Once we put in effort and stay on the right road then that beautiful moment of intersection will be Basheret.
May we all be blessed by HaShem to give us the amount of insight to realize that whether it’s now or later, or before, we must aspire for greatness, if we want marry greatness.
My lovely friends who are married, the same applies to a healthy marriageJ
This week I will try to: start focusing on what I look for in a spouse, and I will become that. I will reconsider relationships that may not be good for me and I will keep the momentum of my car consistent. Through the attributes of Rebecca’s kindness, alacrity and modesty, we will become those for ourselves and others.
Mazel Tov on the engagement of
Tuli Skaist and Ruthie Matanky !!!
Zacharia Salzberg and Carly Ash!!!
Shabbat Shalom!
I remember when I was in Israel I was more concerned with the girls I met then the friends I had. If a met someone new, I always asked myself “could this be it? Is she the one?” It began to get to a point where it was emotional torture for me. Rabbi Yehoshua Paltiel from Lev HaTorah already specialized in Love and Marriage, so I figured he would be the right man to talk to. Upon telling him my situation, he quickly responded with an analogy.
Imagine an intersection with stop signs at all four corners. You are going east and your soul mate is going south. The goal is for both of you to meet at exactly the right moment at that stop sign. My Rabbi continued with saying, if one is going to continuously pull over to the side of the road, he loses momentum and speed, he is not focusing on himself or what he needs, but what he thinks he needs. When the moment comes that you reach the stop sign, your soul mate has already been and gone. If one were to focus on his or himself then he would have continued momentum for the exact moment of meeting. He said “Isaiah if you focus on yourself and what you need to be the best you, that you can be, then that is how you will meet your soul mate.
A friend told me she once blurted out to her Rebbe: “Rebbe, I want to marry someone just like you” The Rebbe responded by saying “First you need to be someone like my wife.” Sometimes we spend our whole life in pursuit for meaning, for someone special, and for the ultimate euphoria. We learn through these two stories it only comes from ourselves.
“ .. he married Rebecca, she became his wife, and he loved her…(24:67)”
As stated in other Missions it is important to understand our Patriarchs and Matriarchs and why they are who they are. Not to say the Isaac was not important but simply to stress who Rebecca was. Rebecca was a woman of pure modesty. She overflowed with acts of kindness and was a completely selfless person. Rebecca is a woman who we should all aspire to be like.
We must come to realize that we can spend our whole lives talking about how we want our soul mate to be like but ultimately we need to be that person. If I spend my whole life “pulling over”, then when she is ready for me, I will still be miles away. The people that we will consider as a spouse and life partner will come to us only we have committed to ourselves. Once we put in effort and stay on the right road then that beautiful moment of intersection will be Basheret.
May we all be blessed by HaShem to give us the amount of insight to realize that whether it’s now or later, or before, we must aspire for greatness, if we want marry greatness.
My lovely friends who are married, the same applies to a healthy marriageJ
This week I will try to: start focusing on what I look for in a spouse, and I will become that. I will reconsider relationships that may not be good for me and I will keep the momentum of my car consistent. Through the attributes of Rebecca’s kindness, alacrity and modesty, we will become those for ourselves and others.
Mazel Tov on the engagement of
Tuli Skaist and Ruthie Matanky !!!
Zacharia Salzberg and Carly Ash!!!
Shabbat Shalom!
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